To counsel, suggest, recommend or offer an opinion is way easier than
helping. Should someone resist himself in giving the expert aid? Should
they be looking at themselves first? As a grown up matured human being,
the best you could do to yourself is to know better than advising
people. It is easier said than done and often people do not stop before
showering advises and walk the talk. Not always is the person ready to
listen to you, nor he is in the mood to get it from someone living a
similar or a minimal life.
You never know what the person is going through or the condition he fights be it mental or physical. It is easy to speak from a distance, but tough to be in his/her shoes and fight it. Just because the listener is patient doesn't mean you bring him down with your wises. You wouldn't even know but your minutest piece of care or generosity would be aggression and a blow on his face. Stop! Even if you care, there's a way of putting things, there's a time to do it and there are only few instances to do it. Respect the person and do not test his patience with your wises. Your wises change into vices and in the slightest count of hour, you rank the last person he would look up to in any situation.
Have faith in the person the way he handles situation. Truth is, everyone is a self-made person in this world. You were not born genius, nor was the one in the cradle next to you. Let the person live the life his way, on his terms, on his strengths. Unless he serves his misery for food at your place, do not oblige him with your wises. Nobody is interested in knowing how he should carve his life, unless it comes from his family. Let the man live, let the man find the strength and struggle with his patience. He will emerge as a winner. Help him if you care before he starts disrespecting you for your advises. It really doesn't matter if you are an extrovert or an introvert, sensitive or intuitive type, thinking or feeling personality, judging or perceiving. It doesn't make up to the excuse. Unless you lived your life happily for six, seven or eight decades or belong to the clan of superhuman, stop yourself from nagging the other person before he turns his back.
Even in your slightest belief he belongs to the troglodytes, then you belong to the same place in his belief.
You wouldn't be knowing in stabbing someone with your advises; remember silence is a sharper sword.
You never know what the person is going through or the condition he fights be it mental or physical. It is easy to speak from a distance, but tough to be in his/her shoes and fight it. Just because the listener is patient doesn't mean you bring him down with your wises. You wouldn't even know but your minutest piece of care or generosity would be aggression and a blow on his face. Stop! Even if you care, there's a way of putting things, there's a time to do it and there are only few instances to do it. Respect the person and do not test his patience with your wises. Your wises change into vices and in the slightest count of hour, you rank the last person he would look up to in any situation.
Have faith in the person the way he handles situation. Truth is, everyone is a self-made person in this world. You were not born genius, nor was the one in the cradle next to you. Let the person live the life his way, on his terms, on his strengths. Unless he serves his misery for food at your place, do not oblige him with your wises. Nobody is interested in knowing how he should carve his life, unless it comes from his family. Let the man live, let the man find the strength and struggle with his patience. He will emerge as a winner. Help him if you care before he starts disrespecting you for your advises. It really doesn't matter if you are an extrovert or an introvert, sensitive or intuitive type, thinking or feeling personality, judging or perceiving. It doesn't make up to the excuse. Unless you lived your life happily for six, seven or eight decades or belong to the clan of superhuman, stop yourself from nagging the other person before he turns his back.
Even in your slightest belief he belongs to the troglodytes, then you belong to the same place in his belief.
You wouldn't be knowing in stabbing someone with your advises; remember silence is a sharper sword.
“A wise man is superior to any advises which can be put
upon him, and the best reply to unseemly behavior is patience and
moderation.”
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